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Why do some fine motor skills activities frustrate your child?
Not all activities that are supposed to improve your child's skills actually do so. Why else is your child reduced to tears and frustration when trying them?
Many websites and educational toys will tell you that their activities will improve your child’s fine motor skills.
But perhaps you have found that your child struggles to do the activity, and gives up in frustration – and their fine motor skills remain poor.
I have written this article to help you to understand what is happening, and to help you to choose fine motor skills activities that will really help your child.
I have found that you can classify fine motor skills activities into two groups:
Does the activity REQUIRE the child to have decent fine motor skills
to start with? These activities are the ones that USE fine motor skills.
Coloring in, pencil-and-paper work, building model airplanes, some construction toys, craft work, and threading beads are some of them.
If your child has fairly decent fine motor skills, then
HOWEVER, if your child has poor fine motor skills,
And because your child gives up, their fingers don’t get the practice they need.
Of course, a really determined or bright child may find a method of doing it, but it usually involves doing the activity in a way that does not use the small muscles of the hands efficiently.
For example, look at the distorted grip that this child uses to hold the paint brush!
I have also seen children wedging a construction toy between the knees to screw it on, or using their mouth to hold the wire for threading beads.
They may be able to complete the activity with a great deal of effort, but their fine motor skills are not necessarily improved.
A fine motor activity that strengthens hand and finger muscles and improves dexterity, is good for developing fine motor skills.
In addition, if your child does an activity that works on one of the Four Essential Bases, it will eventually have a positive impact on your child’s fine motor skills.
Developing good fine motor skills requires that your child develops skills in what I call the Four Essential Bases. These bases are:
If your child's fine motor skills are poor, and they get frustrated with regular fine motor tasks, then request an occupational therapy evaluation to figure out which "base" is weak. Your OT will then help you find activities that will help your child develop a stronger foundation for fine motor skills.
So, whenever you want to do a fine motor skills activities with your child, ask yourself: "Which essential base is this activity working on?"
If it is an activity merely for the sake of activity, demanding skills that your child does not have, then you will both be frustrated.
But if the activity is developing an Essential Base, then your child has a better chance of succeeding and enjoying the task.
Almost all of the fine motor skills activities on my site are aimed at trying to improve your child's fine motor skills, without making the assumption that their skills are good to start with!
Check out these pages for a range of activities that can help your child master fine motor skills with a whole lot less frustration!
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